Why not?! Take the pressure off dating and relationships. Relax, tell stories, laugh, have fun and share information - without having to worry about what you're going to say next!

The object of the game is to discover as much as you can about the person you're with. So, it can help new or established couples learn about each other in a fun, intimate and exciting way.

Flirty fun is what the game of love is all about and this game makes it easier! There aren't any rules but check out the How To Play section below!

Playing the Field is a series of card games divided into 1st Base, 2nd Base, 3rd Base, and Home Run. Each series of questions explores aspects you want to know about someone but may not feel comfortable asking at the onset of dating. The questions become more intimate and descriptive with each level of the game. Sorry, kids; it's for adults ages 18 to 98.

Playing the Field includes 4 decks of 52 playing cards. Each deck includes a body language cue card and suggested instructions as well. Every playing card poses a question designed to initiate conversation but is also a regular playing card--you can play the game in any traditional card game format!

It's a card game! Any number from 2 to 10 (really, there's no upper limit-but the sense of intimacy changes in groups larger than 10).

On dates of any kind-first, second, or more, as well as established couple dates. Also dinner parties, girls' night, retreats, parties, getaways, evenings out, while sipping drinks at your favorite bar/restaurant...get the picture?

Sure! Remember, the questions become progressively more intimate. Here are a few of my favorites:

• 1st Base:
  
  Describe your idea of a perfect weekend.
• 2nd Base:
  
  Is it OK for your partner to have a best friend of the opposite sex?
• 3rd Base:
  
  What do you do for birth control and disease prevention?
• Home Run:
  
  What's the difference between sex, romance and love?

Playing the Field allows couples to get to know each other in a casual setting. Who doesn't like to play card games? And if they don't, do you really want to date them?

Using Playing the Field can help you get a better idea of the person you're with and can help you decide whether you want to be with them.

I've been dating for at least 20 years and lived through two unsuccessful marriages. I have a great circle of smart, successful friends-men and women. Turns out even smart, successful people have trouble communicating with prospective partners.

Unfortunately, when we meet people, hormones kick in and our usual common sense filters disappear! So Playing the Field can bring back some rationality and at the same time allow you to be fun and exploratory!

Good question! You know only 10% of communication is verbal, right? The other 90% is expressed through body language. Understanding body language reveals the rest of the story ...and can help you in other aspects of your life, too!

So, I've included a Body Language Cue Card that helps you figure out what the finger tapping, sly smile, or hair twisting really means! It lists the not-so-subtle body language cues that inevitably express more than what a person is actually saying.

I designed this game to help relieve the pressure of the getting-to-know-you process. It sets up a low risk environment that encourages real communication - no more guess work and having to formulate a sassy retort or analytical question - just pick up a card and go from there!

I believe happiness - long or short term - is a natural by-product of good communication. Couples using Playing the Field will not only learn more about their partners, but also more about themselves. And, if they get tired of figuring each other out, they can use the cards to play other games! Playing the Field is also great in group settings. My friends and I have spent hours laughing and telling stories while learning much, much, more about each other.

Playing the Field is a great gift for your fresh-on-the-market friends, family members, your girlfriend who always complains about never finding Mr. Right, and your guy friends who always seem to date a different girl every four months.

Anyone between the ages of 18 and 98 will love Playing the Field...seriously! There are 100 million single Americans who, I'm guessing, would like to find their match. If you're ready to get to know the one you're with or narrow the playing field to that special someone, order Playing the Field now!

1. Crack open the box and start with the First Base deck. (Inevitably, men will reach for Homerun but trust me...start with First.) Set the deck down between the two of you and take turns asking the questions. You can opt to only have the non-card holder answer or you can both chime in with answers.

2. Play War - split the deck in half. Place your stack of cards face down on the table. Pick the top card and throw down face up. Whoever has the highest card gets to ask the question of the other player.

Need Date ideas? Take the deck of your choice when dining at restaurants, for drinks at a patio bar, picnic at the park, lounging on the deck of your boat, in bed, while listening to the sweet lull of music, or on a no-TV-let's-talk night, etc. Use your imagination!

1. Set a deck down in the middle and take turns picking up cards around the circle. Our rule is usually that the card holder doesn't have to answer but everyone else in the circle does. Or to speed things up a bit, the card chooser selects one person to answer.

2. Blackjack (can you count to 21?!?) - mix all 4 decks together. Play the regular round of 21 with one exception...you have to answer the question on the card that is face up in order to get hit again. Find out if your hand (and answer) beats the dealer!

3. Drinking games - we all know that 2 or 3 rounds of questioning (i.e. shots) into the game that the rules will become convoluted...just attempt to stick to whichever rules you create at the beginning. Best answer, worst answer, biggest load of bull, most laughter filled answer...whichever version you agreed upon that person takes a shot. Have fun with this one, but play responsibly...the affects of alcohol are heightened with laughter!

1. Take out the deck and ask the top card question of one person then put that card at the bottom of the stack. After the answer is given pass that person the deck of cards. They then pick one person from the group to ask the question on the next card. Continue zig-zagging the questions around your group of friends.

2. Involve everyone around you. If a microphone is available, put it to use! The more you can get involved (especially in a public place) the more fun you will have listening to the answers!

The prospect of Playing the Field to Home Base in one sitting is too daunting. Even I can't talk that long! Break it up into baby steps, grab a single deck and make a night of it.

I have been on dates where:

1. I realized that I did not want to play 1st Base with the guy (first and last date...just didn't feel the need to get to know him better)

2. Dates where we answered a quarter of the questions in a long, talkative evening (and continued to make our way through 1st Base in the following couple of dates)

3. And other dates that quickly answered all of the questions in the deck within an hour or two.

Just depends upon the vibes that the two of you are giving each other.

The decks are totally portable and perfect to stash along for an evening out at your favorite restaurant.

It's that simple! No trinkets or little pieces to lose, no score sheet to tally, just the new, juicy knowledge you take with you about your partner!

Ready to start the conversation!?! Playing the Field 1st Base will put players at ease and make it fun to open up on those first dates or with a group. The 1st Base deck is a great icebreaker for getting to know someone-by pitching a series of fun and insightful questions.

The Playing the Field 2nd Base Deck deepens your understanding of each other as the questions get more intense. 2nd Base questions help you determine if the person sitting next to you is worthy of your continued attention or if they have a freaky train of thought you'd rather not follow.

By the time you've advanced to the 3rd Base Deck, you've obviously obtained a certain level of comfort with each other, but it's time to dig a little deeper. Knowledge that sometimes takes years to acquire (if ever!) will rise to the surface. The questions become more intimate and descriptive as you acquire a greater understanding of each other through what I consider to be some of the tougher questions. This is usually the make it or break it deck...by this point you've heard a lot of stories that should help you determine your level of compatibility.

In the Home Run deck, you encounter the "long term" questions from the series of four game decks. It's time for the final test. Up the ante, throw out some tougher and more intimate questions - you know, the deal breaker type. Pitch the last series of fastballs and see if they score a run. Will they take home plate and your heart?